Eli - Three Month Update

Last week just after the 4th of July, Eli turned three months old! Time is absolutely flying with this little guy in the house. Here's his three month update.

Naps: Typically takes two, two and a half hour naps and one cat nap (about 45 minutes) in the evening before bed.
Feeding: Same as last month. Both nursing and bottle feeding breast milk, eats four times a day and once at night with about 5 oz per feeding.
Clothing: 0-3 month - but just about to move up. 
Bedtime: 7 p.m. Sleeps about 12 hours each night; waking once to eat.

Not too much change here. We've settled into a comfortable routine of Eli eating five times in 24 hours. He eats every four hours during the day - 7 a.m., 11 a.m., 3 p.m. and 7 p.m. and is still waking once per night to eat at about 3 a.m. While I want to eliminate that 3 a.m. feeding, I just don't think he's quite ready to - he's still taking a full feeding at 3 a.m. (5ish oz.), and during the day, he's only taking in 20 oz., so I know he needs those extra calories. He actually eats a little less during the day since last month, not sure if that was due to a growth spurt or what. He is still nursing and being bottle-fed breast milk, although I'm nursing more than I was when he was two months.

Eli is a champion sleeper. I think part of it is just his nature, but part of it is the fact that we do sleep train. He takes three naps a day. His first is at about 8:30 a.m. and he'll usually sleep until 10:30 or 11 a.m. Since last month, I finally figured out an afternoon and evening routine that helps him nap and not be so fussy in the evening. He goes down for a long afternoon nap around 12:30 p.m. and then typically sleeps for two or three hours. I think what was happening was that I was waiting too long to put him down. I would usually try around 1 or 1:30 p.m. and by then he was overtired and had a hard time sleeping (or staying asleep). One weekend, Mike was on nap duty, and I told him to put Eli down when he seemed tired. At 12:15 p.m. Mike comes walking upstairs to the nursery to put Eli down. Eli went down without a fuss and slept for three hours - I was shocked! But that's the time I've started looking for sleep signs ever since, and it works great.

In the evening, Eli takes a cat nap around 5 p.m. I'll either put him down in his crib (or car seat if we're out) or sometimes he'll nap while being held, but that doesn't work quite as well. I don't necessarily have to be home for any of these naps yet, which is nice. He sleeps well in his car seat, it's usually just a bit shorter and then he makes up for it with a longer nap the next time. Thankfully, he's usually still super content and happy even if he doesn't get full naps, which is nice. For all of his naps, if I catch him at the right time, all I have to do is put him down, sing a song and he basically passes out. So nice.

At night Eli has a little trouble. He takes his last feed at 7 p.m. and we put him to bed right after. He usually fusses on and off for about 15 minutes. I'm pretty sure he knows this is "the big one" and he doesn't want to go down without a fight. Once he's down, he wakes up around 3 or 4 a.m. for another feed, then easily goes back down to sleep. He typically wakes at 7 a.m., but lest you think he's a sleep-angel, for a while he was waking around 5 or 6 a.m. and struggling to go back down. He'd be awake for one or two hours on and off, but last week that finally ended and he's back to normal. Not sure what the cause of that was.

Oh my gosh, this kid is so fun. Seriously, I can't even tell you how great it is that I get to hang out with him all day. This month, Eli's smiles have gotten more frequent - when he's awake he almost has a perma-smile on his face. He's so easy to make smile, and there have been a few times where I've wondered if we're starting to get the first signs of a belly laugh. He's super talkative, squealing, squeaking and squawking pretty much all day long.

He's finally discovered his hands, and we'll catch him staring in fascination as he turns them and moves them in front of his face. He's just started to grab things; it's fun to see him under his play yard holding onto one of the animal's legs, which is a huge change from last month. He also loves to stand up (with support of course), and he pumps his chubby little legs up and down, up and down, with this HUGE grin on his face. Seriously, he looks like he could eat me his mouth is so big when he does it. He has almost total head control, and it's been nice to carry him or sit him in our laps without needing to hold his head.

Eli is still LOVING the play yard. I think one afternoon he laid there for an hour, talking the entire time. He kicks and grabs on to things and tells stories to the animals. As a change from last month, he can be quite adamant that he face out when we hold him. He loves facing out so he can see everything happening and seeing where noise is coming from. This month we also puppy sat a friend's black Lab, and he loved watching her move around. She would come and lick his toes and he would smile and watch her in fascination.

Tummy-time is still not so fun for him, but we're getting better at it. The other day I actually got a smile out of him before he fell apart into tears, so I'd say that's progress.

New This Month
Not a lot of new "big" things this month. He saw his first parade (the one that goes by our house each year), visited a farmer's market, and took his first hike and boat ride. 

Other Notes
Mike and I keep saying that this month, Eli turned into a baby. We don't think of him as a newborn anymore - we're definitely starting to see his personality and it's been so fun to "get to know him." I feel like we're finally out of the weeks where he was so unpredictable each day. This month, his demeanor became incredibly consistent and if he's fussy, it's usually pretty easy to figure out why and fix it (aka, NAP).

Mommy/Daddy Update
A couple weeks ago I wrote about feeling pretty sleep deprived, and I think that was the theme of the month for me. Things have gotten a little better, but there are still days where I feel like I need someone to douse me with cold water so I can focus in the middle of a conversation. I'm trying to be better at taking naps when Eli does, but it's hard for me to do. I also find myself obsessed at checking out forums and websites when I have questions about Eli. Pretty much every day I talk with Mike about what I read on keeping my milk supply up, why Eli's waking up at 5 a.m., what the color of his poop must mean. I'm learning that as soon as you think you have it figured out, things change again so I shouldn't put so much stock into frantically looking for answers during a 3 a.m nursing sesh.

Mike's been great at listening to my thoughts and helping me problem-solve, and he's also great at just telling me not to worry about it - when that truly is the only answer. He's an amazing dad, and pretty much spends the entire evening after he gets home from work holding Eli. Sometimes Eli is napping when he comes home, and Mike is so disappointed that I'll tell him to go wake Eli up. Mike doesn't care that he might be a bit fussy, he just wants to hang with our boy.

We celebrated our third anniversary this month, and it was so crazy to reflect on how far our lives have come. While we didn't originally think we'd be parents this soon into marriage, we couldn't help but admit that Eli came at the perfect time and we never for a second wish that we had a "few more years for just us." He is pure joy and we're so blessed to call him our son.

In case you missed it, here's Eli's two month update. 


  1. Hello! I just found your blog through I Heart Organizing and I must say I'm in love with your honesty about parenting as well as your awesome home design! I'm a first time mom to an almost 4 month old so I was reading Eli's monthly updates. You mentioned that you sleep trained and I was wondering if you have written a post on it? His feeding and sleep schedule is awesome and I'd be interested to see your methods. I'm embarrassed to say I've already started to stalk your blog. ;-) Thanks! Kristin

    1. Hi Kristin! I haven't actually written a post on it- sleep training is such a divisive topic, I always get nervous when I sit down to write about it. We used a combination of Baby Whisper, Baby Wise and Twelve Hours by Twelve Weeks, so I can't even send you to a book. I would say we mostly used Twelve Hours by Twelve Weeks, but again, we were pretty flexible with adjusting it to what seemed to work for Eli. I'll reconsider writing a post on it because I have had quite a few inquiries about and will definitely let you know if I do!