Sick All The Time

Over the weekend, Eli was sick yet again. Some type of flu virus, he has a nasty cough and runny nose, but this time - thankfully - no fever. On Sunday morning I woke up to Mike and Eli sitting on the floor in the bathroom with the shower on as hot as it goes to try to clear up Eli's breathing. It's been heavy and rattly and oh, so awful. But I can tell he's getting better and we're through the worst of it.

Can I just say, I feel like Eli is always sick? I guess I thought that since I was staying at home with him, he wouldn't get sick quite as often. But then again, we have lots of people over to the house and we go out and about a lot, we babysit quite a few other kids at random times, and of course, Eli LOVES to suck on the cart handle when I'm grocery shopping, no matter how many times I try to block him, he still seems to manage one or two good sucks each time we go.

I keep wondering if I'm doing something wrong - why is my kid sick all the time? Should I sanitize more? Go out less? What's the solution? Is there a solution? I know that "kids are sick all the time." I've definitely heard that and believe that - but I think Eli's sick with something at least twice a month. And when each of those sicknesses last a week, it starts to feel like he's been sick his whole life. Other mommas, do you feel the same way?

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  1. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Lewis was sick a lot last year, but it was fairly mild and it didn't seem that bad. In fact, I used to judge moms who had sick kids "all the time". They missed bible study and were really inconsistent. "Why are your kids sick so often?" I would wonder...and then secretly decide that we weren't going to be a sickly family who were constantly restricted by it.
    And then this year happened. Lewis got hand, foot, and mouth while I was on bed rest. It made me kind of mad...then the twins came and I felt obsessed with keeping them away from sick people. It was like, "if you want to look at my children, please sanitize your hands." If I heard a kid was sick and their mom allowed them around my child, I couldn't believe how rude they were being... So we went to all means to protect them - kept them all out of nursery, in the house, made everyone wash their hands, etc. And guess what happened...THEY ALL GOT SICK ANYWAY! EVERY SINGLE WEEK IN JANUARY! It was horrible. All I did was stay inside and deal with pukey feverish children. I was on the phone with first nurse and the hospital for the twins...ugh. Yes, my nightmares were coming true, and nothing I did stopped it. So sometime at the end of January I decided that if kids get sick all the time no matter what you do, we were going to at least enjoy our lives. No more quarantining or obsessively asking about who has been sick before I bring my kids to play with others...no more worrying about it. I was just going to do normal precautions and whatever happens, happens. In the end, I think God was trying to teach me about control. Ever since I've been more relaxed, everyone has been healthy. Go figure!

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    1. This is actually a VERY good story for me to hear. I feel like I'm getting to the point where I don't want to take Eli anywhere or let anyone in our home if they've had so much as a sniffle in the past month! It's a good reminder that it's just the season of life right now, as annoying as it is!

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  2. Our dr said that the two worst times for kids to get sick, is where they are about 9 months and winter.... so a double hit. It will get better - I promise! My twins were sick ALL THE TIME last winter when they were 9 months... I thought I was going to pull my hair out. But we all made it through - and because they were literally exposed to everything, they have been extremely healthy this year!

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    1. Okay, you make me feel better - and I can't believe you and to survive last winter with two sick kids. I definitely would have pulled my hair out! I'm glad to hear your kiddos are healthier this year!

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  4. Although I feel like babies will be babies and kids will be kids, always going to find something to suck on therefore be sick often. In the winter months I try to do a little hibernation, and it really does help. There are weeks that Walker doesn't make it out but Sunday to go to church. By out I mean running errands with me or going to peoples houses. If at all possible Gavin will say home with him or I stay home and the other runs about, considering that we have 3 school aged kids in actives 4 out of 7 nights it is tough but we make it work. I also make it a point to take Walker out for a stroll in our citymini every other day for some fresh air, yes even in this midwest cold I just make sure he is bundled up nicely.

    Maybe take a step back and look at how often you are out with Eli and if you feel like you can cut some trips out then do so. Often times I feel like parents have babies and try to get the baby to fit into their lives vs. parents adjusting our lives to theirs. I'm biased and feel that if you are a stay at home parent you should be able to move your life around theirs a lot easier than if you work out of the home. && I mean that in the nicest way possible! :)

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    1. Hi Ada! I totally hear you! I feel like I definitely try to work around Eli's schedule (not missing naps, getting to bed on time, etc.) but it is a good reminder to take a second look at trips to see if they are really worth it or, like you said, see if I can go once my husband is home. I'm constantly trying to find balance between the things I want to do and need to do!

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