I've been married to Mike for nearly four years now. That's not a lot of time in the grand scheme of things, but it's enough time to know more than I knew when I first married him. (At least I hope so.) A new marriage is tough. It's an adjustment. It changes things. There are always growing pains and no matter how wonderful it is, there are always hard things here, there and everywhere that have to be dealt with.
So we started Sunday Check-Ins. Each Sunday over dinner, a walk, or even squeezed in during a car ride, Mike and I ask each other four questions:
- How did I show you love last week?
- How can I love you better this week?
- How can I love you better in intimacy this week?
- What's on tap for the week ahead?
After having a baby, our Sunday Check-Ins faded away as our lives were filled with hooded bath towels that look like penguins, colorful plastic keys that rattle and light up, and baby shoes - preferably TOMS, but any cute pair will do. But just like a new marriage, among all the wonderful happenings, things were upside down again, and new tough things flooded our relationship. There's adjustment, changes, growing pains and new hard things here, there and everywhere. So we recommitted to Sunday Check-Ins.
It's kind of amazing how much good it does for our marriage. I just thought I'd share in case it could be helpful for yours.
*Photo courtesy Canary Grey Photography.