No Man's Land Book Recommendations

I feel like Eli has done more growing and changing over the past two weeks than he has in the past two months. Especially physically, he looks different every single morning when I go to get him out of his crib. I know I've said this a million times, but with his birthday just a few days away, I'm finding it difficult to process that he'll be a one year old and I'll be raising a toddler, not a baby! I mean look at him in all his joy up there tasting Starbucks for the first time - he's so grown up!

I'm continually amazed at watching his personality shift from fairly oblivious about his surroundings to having an opinion on every little thing. Mike even commented the other day that Eli seems more grumpy than normal, and he's right. But Eli's also easier to make laugh and smile than he ever has been before too. His mood swings make me think I'm raising a teenage girl, not a little boy. If I don't like his 'tude, I'm learning to just wait five minutes and I'll see another one.

With all these changes, I'm now on the hunt for a few resources on raising one year olds. Anyone have any they'd recommend? I feel like there's a gap between "baby" (0-12 months) and "toddler" (2-4 years old). I know a one year old is technically a toddler, but most of the stuff I'm seeing is for kids that can communicate beyond whining, crying and smiling. I'd love to hear your recommendations - I'm lost in no man's land over here!

9 comments:

  1. Oh my gosh. Your blog speaks the words I have been trying to find since I became a mother 3 months ago. Thank you for finding the words.
    I came across your blog less than a week ago and have spent almost every nursing session since reading your posts! It has been extremely therapeutic for me. Thank you. Please keep up with your honest posts. There is so much truth in them that no one (that I have found) likes to talk about out loud. Or maybe it's just that we don't get the chance to have heart-to-hearts when we're around other mothers because babies are too distracting and we're all too tired!. But either way, I find comfort in your words. Thank you for sharing.

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  2. All good advice Emily! I think that's probably exactly what I need to keep in mind. That this is really a "maintenance" mode until he's a little older. Just keep him alive and out of harms way. :)

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  3. Hi Elle - I'm so glad you found me! I so appreciate your encouragement and am so glad to hear you're connecting with my writing! Cheers to you in motherhood, we're all in this together!

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  4. Amanda PhilgreenApril 2, 2014 at 2:17 PM

    This next stage is crazy and it goes by so fast! Just remember that with all development it doesn't just happen. I can't just expect my little guy to wake up on his birthday and listen to my instruction and obey! You are building character in your children all the time (kind of scary! ). We really tried to be consistent and repetitive during these months. I'm not sure how many times I've reminded my kids to make a wise choice as I told them what that choice was! We would model correct behavior over and over again. Pick out one thing you are going to really key into and enjoy the craziness. I feel like the mobile and not communicating with words stage revealed so much on my own heart. I'm pretty sure I probably grunt and babble in my heart all the time! I'm grateful for those who patiently walk with me as I learn and my character grows! If you find a great book, let me know! Loving the little years, was a book written more for mom than for helping kids behaviors but it encouraged me. It is written during her kids naptimes, so if you try to ready it in a hurry, it kind of flows funny. It is perfect for all of us who only have a couple minutes each day:)

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  5. Thanks Amanda! This is all good advice. I'm starting to think I should just write my own book that's just quotes from people like you. :) Being consistent and repetitive does seem to be the key, and I love how you shared that it revealed your own heart, I'm already seeing that and what I'm finding definitely scares me. :) Thanks for the encouragement!

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  6. I really appreciated reading the comments on this! I've been feeling the same way during this stage (James is 16 months now) and since his first birthday it seemed like our always content and cheerful little boy turned suddenly much more whiny and tantrum-y. Suddenly so many opinions, desires, and preferences without fully being able to communicate them makes for a frustrated kiddo at times. I've also been questioning how to handle it best, how to best discipline and give consequences as there are times it seems he's being purposefully defiant, but I also question how much he understands at this age. It was good to hear from other moms in the same boat and those who have been through it!

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  7. That's good to hear you're in the same place Nicole! That's exactly how eli is as of about two weeks ago. It's so weird how they just become totally different! I know it'll only get more difficult from here, since he's still pretty young, so I'm trying to remind myself of that. :)

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  8. I just found your blog from espresso & cream and can totally relate to the isolation of the first months of motherhood. And nap-time jail! My little guy is 18 months now and it's much easier to get out and plan play dates, but when he took 4 or 5 45 minute naps it was brutal! Thanks for your encouraging words.

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  9. Thanks for stopping by Andrea! Nap jail is the worst, but totally worth it. :) I'm glad you connected with the post!

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