Colette - One Month Update


Naps: Four naps a day, about one to one and a half hours after each feeding, about two hours each.
Feeding: Exclusively breastfeeding, typically nurses about eight times in 24 hour period. 
Clothing: Newborn and some 0-3 month  
Bedtime: 7 - 8 p.m. (ish)

Eating: Nursing is actually going really well with Colette. This was something I was a bit anxious about prior to her arrival, just after everything that happened with Eli. Thus far, she seems to have a good latch, is gaining weight like a champ, and I'm actually feeling pretty good. I did get Mastitis a few days ago due to a plugged duct, but since I've had it before, I knew what it was and went to the doctor right away so I could get on medication. Mastitis is super painful, but I know I need to "nurse through the pain," particularly since I did lose a bit of supply on the infected side, so I'm working on building it back up by starting Colette on that side each time. 

Right now, Colette nurses about about eight times in a 24 hour period: 7 a.m., 11 a.m., 1 p.m., 4 p.m., 7 p.m., Midnight, 5  a.m. The day times are very consistent, but night times vary by about an hourish. I was trying to implement a dream feed at 10 p.m. (A Baby Whisper practice, if you're familiar with that method.), but for various reason (which I'll talk about in the next section) we eliminated it. Right now, I just let her wake on her own at night to feed, although during the day she's very scheduled and I will wake her. I put her on the "three hour schedule" pretty much from day one. I had to wake her to eat anyway, so it was very easy to implement and she seems to do well on it.

Sleeping: Oh boy. So, she's a champion during the day. She falls asleep pretty easily on her own, I just put her down in the co-sleeper or a small cradle at the very first signs of her being tired (I look for them about one to one and a half hours after I wake her to nurse), and she usually falls asleep completely on her own. I may have to go to her once or twice, do a bit of shushing/pacifier/patting till she calms down, but very quickly she's asleep. 

At night it's another story. Pretty much since she's been born she's had rough nights. At first we thought it was just having her nights/days flipped, but pretty soon, it became apparent that wasn't the case as she she gave us wake time during the day. Each night around the 7 p.m. feed she becomes extremely fussy. She didn't do it every night at first, but by the time she was about two and a half weeks old, she was doing it on a consistent basis and now that's pretty much status quo for her. She'll cry on and off (mostly all on) and not sleep until about 2 or 3 a.m., then again from about 5 a.m. to 7 a.m. One night she even was up crying all night from 7 p.m. - 7 a.m. and she gave us about one hour of sleep. (I died a very slow death that night.) Doesn't matter if she's held, nursed, rocked, shushed, massaged, co-sleeping, propped up - all that good stuff - trust me, we've tried it all. We've tried all different combinations of gas drops/gripe water, etc. and nothing seems to work. There were a few nights I was sure it was gas, just because of the way she was acting, but overall, I don't think that's what it is. 

I think she just cries at night. 

BUT. On Monday we started using a product called Colic Calm and that night she gave us three hours straight of sleep. The next night, she slept all night (9 p.m. - 7 a.m., besides feeding and being rocked back to sleep) and didn't cry once. And last night, she was 
actually decently calm from 7 p.m. to Midnight, just requiring us to hold/paci/butt pat her, and then she slept from Midnight to 7 a.m. (besides feedings). Anyway, this is a VAST improvement, so we're so, so, very hopeful that this will continue and is the magic ticket! We also borrowed a cradle from a friend that has a slight incline and feels a bit cozier and that seems to help her stay asleep too. 

Development: 
I can't believe how fast this month has flown! In some ways, it seems like just yesterday we were driving home with a sleepy newborn and in other ways it feels like Colette's been in our family forever! She really is a wonderful baby (during the day) :) and now that she has more wake time during the day, it feels like we've gotten to "enjoy" her more, you know? She loves to watch Eli and is just starting to somewhat track him as he moves like a tornado around the room. She's getting a little more control of her head/neck, still super wobbly, but she seems to be getting more and more solid every day. She's also just starting to give us a few coos, and I swear we've seen quite a few smiles out of her already - much earlier than Eli!

Likes/Dislikes:
Obviously, she loves being held (What newborn doesn't?) and loves pats on her side. I think she likes being on her side too, as often we'll find her slightly turned, and sometimes at night, that's the only position that will calm her down. This is going to sound so cheesy, but I swear she loves to "look deep into my eyes."  I know, I know, but seriously! I'm unable to give her as much one-on-one attention as I'd like to, but when I can, I love just looking at her and trying to get her to smile - and she seems to eat it up, particularly in this past week. I so wish I could give her more of my time, but I have to remind myself that that's the reality for a second child. Girl also loves her baths - and with all that hair, it's a good thing. It shows the grease way more than a bald head, and she eats up a warm bath, lying super still and even closing her eyes during it! 


As far as dislikes, well, the big one - NIGHTTIME. Apparently she hates that. She also doesn't like tummy time too much, but when Eli joins her she seriously does a ton better - often you'll find Colette, myself, Eli and most of his stuffed animals all doing tummy time together randomly throughout the day. 

Momma/Daddy Update:
Well, I thought I knew what sleep deprivation looked like with Eli, but Colette has taken it to a whole additional level! There were a few days there I couldn't even string a sentence together - not even kidding. Mike and I made a rule during those days we couldn't talk about any "serious" topics, because I couldn't deal with it without crying and blubbering nonsensical phrases about how I needed sleep. But massive sleep depravation also makes you appreciate the sleep you do get so much more - so when I got around six hours the other night, I woke up feeling like an entirely new mother. I was so happy and positive about life, it felt so good! 


On Colette's more difficult nights, Mike and I have learned to take shifts, usually about three hours on, three hours off. For a while I was having a really tough time leaving Colette alone with Mike. Part of it is just the fact that since I'm a SAHM, so I felt some responsibility to protect Mike - since I can supposedly sleep during the day (not really with a toddler around and a newborn that likes to be up during his nap.)  And part of it was just the fear that Colette was hungry or just that maybe I would think of something Mike wouldn't that would ease her cries, but eventually I waved the white flag. So, once a night after I finish a feeding, I let Mike take over a full shift while I sleep in a different room. Usually he takes the 9-Midnight shift. There have been a few nights where each of us has called the other person up, just needing a mental/emotional break because things have been extra difficult. I'm so thankful to have a partner in this whole thing, I cannot imagine how hard it must be for single parents!

Beyond the sleep issue, we're really doing well. We just love having a daughter to adore, and there have been some really fun evenings where all four of us are just hanging out, having dance parties or snuggle sessions that have been some of the best moments of my life so far. It's really great to be a family of four!

8 comments:

  1. Seriously, she is the just the cutest! Hang in there mama, as a mom of a baby that had colic, I know what you are going through at nights :( Here are a few things that worked great for us: Colic calm - we used this also and loved it! Probiotics - we gave her probiotics every day to help with her tummy. You can get them over the counter at any drug store or i think Target has them also. Rock n play - We had her sleep in this so she slept at an incline. Both my girls loved the rock n play! Exercises: This is probably the biggest thing that helped us each night. I would either lay her on the floor or in my arm and grip both of her feet and push her legs in and out. She would grunt and pass gas and you could see that it really helped as she would usually instantly stop crying while we were doing it. Sometimes I swear I would push her legs in and out all.night.long.... The other thing is get out of the house during her fussy times. Pack up them cute kiddos and go to the mall or somewhere that has indoor walking now that it is winter. You get a break as they are strapped in the stroller and it might help her to get some fresh air and be in a different environment to keep her calmer. Let me know if you have any other questions! I know when I was going through it, it definitely helped to talk to other moms that had gone through it also :)

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  2. In our limited experience, our boys slept MUCH better in a rock-n-play / snuggabunny for the first 3-4 months. The cozier the better! Laying flat on a crib doesn't bother some babies at all, but i know that all of ours spit up a lot and seemed to struggle to get comfortable. We moved them back to the crib (mattress at an incline) when they were able to roll. Glad to hear she is sleeping better and you found something that works!

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  3. Love this update! So thankful to hear how it's all going .=)

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  4. Love the 3 hour feeding schedule! It definitely helped with both my boys sleeping at night

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  5. Me too, it works so well - but sometimes the feeding does sneak up pretty fast. ;)

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  6. Thanks for the encouragement Jennifer! And all of these tips are so great! I will try some Probiotics, that's something we haven't done it and yes, exercises, is it weird that I feel a sense of accomplishment when I get one out. :) You are so sweet to leave so many suggestions, I so appreciate knowing I'm not alone in all of this!

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  7. Yep, seems like she really likes the cozy! :) And yes, it does seem to help with spit up, that was something that was waking her up I think and starting the process back over - bah! Wish I would have done it from the beginning - and I think we'll be like you, only move her once she can roll.

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